Civility : manners, morals, and the etiquette of democracy / Stephen L. Carter.

Includes bibliographical references (p. 293-332) and index.

1. Barbarians Running Late -- 2. Do Manners Matter? -- 3. The Death of the Golden Age -- 4. Welcoming the Stranger -- 5. The Embarrassment of Free Will -- 6. Sacrifice and Neighbor-Love -- 7. The Demon on the Other Side -- 8. The Varieties of (Not) Listening -- 9. Fighting Words -- 10. Market Language and the Linguistics of Incivility -- 11. Some Technologies of Incivility -- 12. Law, Tolerance, and Civility's Illusions -- 13. Where Civility Begins -- 14. Uncivil Religion -- 15. Civility and the Challenge of Christendom -- 16. The Etiquette of Democracy -- 17. Coda: The Civility of Silence.

Basic good manners have become a casualty of our postmodern culture. Yale law professor and social critic Stephen L. Carter argues that civility is disintegrating because we have forgotten the obligations we owe to each other, and are awash instead in a sea of self-indulgence.

Neither liberals nor conservatives can help us much, Carter explains, because each political movement, in a different way, exemplifies what has become the principal value of modern America: that what matters most is not the needs or hopes of others, but simply getting what we want.

Taking inspiration from the Abolitionist sermons of the nineteenth century, Carter proposes to rebuild our public and private lives around the fundamental rule that we must love our neighbors, a tenet of all the world's great religions.

Writing with his familiar combination of erudition and wit, Carter examines the ways in which an ethic of neighbor-love would alter everything from our political campaigns to our fast food outlets to the information superhighway, from the way we behave in the workplace to the way we drive our cars to the way we argue about constitutional rights.

He investigates many of the fundamental institutions of society - including the family, the churches, and the schoolsand illustrates how each one must do more to promote the virtue of civility.